How to become valuable even when feeling lost in life.
If you don’t know what to pursue or you feel overwhelmed with all of your choices - don’t worry, you’re not alone. Maybe I can help.
You may feel a sort of uncertainty when you think about the future. It seems that your peers have it all figured out. They know exactly what they want from life. They never have doubts like you. They don’t end up reading articles like this one (what a shame). I would say those friends only exist in your mind, since we all like to reflect our best image of ourselves onto others. But let’s take a step back.
I’m gonna take you through 3 questions you should ask yourself.
What do you actually want from your life?
When asked why they went to college, many would say that they did it in order to get a good, high paying job. Certainly, that is an effect of a good education, but let’s look at it differently.
If you were on your deathbed and you looked back on your life what would you like to remember?
If we frame it like this, the superficial things don’t seem to matter that much in the end. A job is not a means in itself, but a vehicle to the means.
What are the goals?
Of course, what you’d like to be remembered for differs from person to person. But generally, everybody would like to impact the world in a positive manner. And also, to not be miserable in the process.
So, let’s take these as our baseline goals for a fulfilling career and life:
- Have a high positive impact.
- Enjoy the process as much as possible.
These are reasonable goals since anyone from a doctor to a bar owner can agree on them.
What’s the vehicle?
This all sounds nice if you already know what you want to be pursuing. Most young people don’t.
People often hear that they should “follow their passion”. This advice would be great if they knew what their passion is. You’re also not going to meet a shaman that will tell you what your calling is. What we’re left with is just doing something. We have to tinker, learn and explore in order to figure out what we’re good at and what we want to chase.
We finally arrive at the gist of this blog post. In order to have a high impact career and also be happy, you have to become valuable.
You may not know what you’re good at, but you can certainly find out what you can become good at in order to help others.
There are certain skills that are incredibly useful regardless of your domain of activity. These are called transferable skills.
Examples of some transferable skills may be:
- Public speaking.
Being good at any of these skills is valuable at a toilet paper company, a non-profit that raises awareness on school abandonment and a tech company.
Of course, more important than these skills is the ability to learn fast and adapt on the job. Specialization is for ants and quite frankly it would be dull as hell if we knew in advance what we had to do and how to do it.
You may not know what your interests are at this stage of your career, but you can develop skills that will help you move fast once you identify them.